Join Brett Gilliland with Dr. John Delony as they talk about winning over anxiety and stress. Academics surrounded Dr. John, which paved his path to having two doctorate degrees. His mother pursued college at 42 and had a doctorate at 57, while his wife got her Ph.D. before him. In this episode, Dr. John recounts his struggle with anxiety triggered back in college and how he managed it.
Dr. John was not the person he is today if not for the people around him. His father was a homicide detective and a SWAT hostage negotiator, while his mother was a housewife. What paved Dr. John’s way to getting out of his comfort zone was his parents’ change halfway through their lives. His father got out of his SWAT job to become a youth minister at a big church. Meanwhile, his mother, who was not allowed to get a higher education, went to college at 42. Dr. John’s mother showed him that it is never too late to reach success, as she had her doctorate at 57 and became an English professor. His wife was also his influence to pursue his degrees as she was also a doctor of philosophy. Dr. John’s story shows the significance of surrounding yourself with the best influences to be successful. Having these mentors to guide him was his advantage and resulted in earning two doctorates.
Pursuing post-graduate education has its toll on mental health because of underlying expectations. For Dr. John, his robust goals of what success looks like added an extra burden to him. For him, it was the number of kids, the salary amount, and the number of positions at the university. The closer he got to the goal, the more he gets exhausted. It was an internal struggle for him – a struggle between stopping and continuing. The anxiety eventually burned him out, and so it was the alarm. Dr. John had to take a pause and start rebuilding from there to manage his anxiety. All it took for Dr. John to get over that hurdle was to gather enough confidence in himself. For him, the idea of believing oneself has to be a value proposition.
About Dr. John Delony:
Dr. John Delony is a mental health expert with two Ph.D.’s in Counselor Education and Supervision and Higher Education Administration from Texas Tech University. Prior to joining Ramsey Solutions in 2020, John worked as a senior leader, professor, and researcher at multiple universities. He also spent two decades in crisis response, walking with people through severe trauma. Now, as a Ramsey Personality, he teaches on relationships and emotional wellness.
Outline of the Episode:
[04:39] John’s involvement in Ramsey Solutions after leaving the university scene
[05:52] Going through anxiety and stress
[08:01] Tracing back anxiety to Dr. John’s childhood
[09:59] Managing anxiety attacks
[13:47] Building belief and confidence for yourself
[16:23] Dr. John’s advice to himself, looking back to his past self
[23:24] Accountability is huge no matter what you do
[25:37] Celebrating successes and mourning over losses
[29:14] Getting out of your comfort zone and going to the next level
[36:34] What it means to “take off the gloves before leaving the gym”
[40:47] Dr. John’s routine and habit formation tips for listeners
[43:50] The science of earthing
[45:14] What app Dr. John does not want to be deleted from his phone
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